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I told you time moves waaaaaay toooo fast at our age.
There was once a old German philosopher who said.......
"At our age, time is shorter than a pair of leather lederhosen."
or was it.........
"Time disappears faster than a stein of good beer!"
OK, I just made that up
Anyway, like I promised, I am bringing you some of the research I did on this phenomena and I am sad to report that there are no clear cut, scientifically definite explanations as to why "Time Flies".
But, I have found some great personal philosophies from some relatively important and influential people that I will share with you over the next few days. I will start with a blog I found written by Phillip Yaffe from a few years back.
Philip Yaffe is a former reporter/feature writer with The Wall Street Journal and a international marketing communication consultant.
His recently published book: "Beliefs Beyond Belief: Examining Improbable Ideas" is available from Amazon (http://www.amazon.com).
Although I really enjoyed his explanations and how he categorized his research, I feel he just barely touched the surface of this phenomena.
I think our job here is to take a look at what Philip came up with and add to it, dig deeper and flesh out what is really happening here.
Again, I send out a request for your input and feedback on this issue because I think it is an incredibly fascinating subject that everyone sees differently and probably has a different opinion on.
If you are reading my blogs it is because we share a common bond of age and the dynamics which surround our struggles with getting older.
You must have thought about this subject before..............my guess is probably many times.
So for me to get a rounded perspective of what those of us in our "Fervid 50's" feel about the time we have spent and have left on this planet, I need your help.
Would you please write back to me and let me know if you are as confused by how quickly time is passing as I am. Here are some questions to get you started:
Do you believe "time moves faster the older you get?"
Are you a "victim" of this phenomena?
What do you think causes this to happen?
Does it seem fair to you?
Do you think there is a purpose behind this experience?
Do you have current priorities and do you find yourself constantly losing track of them?
What causes you to lose focus on your true priorities?
I told you there were a lot of questions.
So, let's figure this one out together.
Please send me your thoughts, ideas, strategies and philosophies on this subject.
One thing I do feel strongly about is that it is very important for me (and you) to take the time to analyze this experience and come as close as possible to an explanation as we can.
I look forward to our conversation.
It is a widely accepted adage that, "The older you get, the faster time seems to go." But why should aging have this effect? After all, there is the parallel adage that, "Time flies when you are having fun." But as we age, time flies whether we are having fun or not.
So what's going on?
I have recently been trying to understand the phenomenon, because for the past several years many of my days have been extremely long, yet the years still seem to be accelerating.
To tackle the problem, I did an Internet search to see what others were saying on the subject. Nearly all the returns had to do with parenting. "Oh, they grow up so fast. The days are long, but the years are short." This is perhaps a partial explanation; however, since the phenomenon occurs just as well to people who have no children, it cannot be the whole answer.
Some other comments had to do with getting religion. "I found God at the age of 30 and every day since I have been waiting to go to His kingdom. I am now in my 80s. Oh, the days have been so long, but the years have been so short." Again perhaps a partial explanation; however, since the phenomenon occurs just as well to non-believers as believers, it cannot be the whole answer either.
Many comments were philosophical. They said simply to accept the phenomenon and live each day to the full. Good advice, but again no advance in understanding.
I then turned to science. I typed in the search words "psychology of time". This turned up hundreds of articles, most of which were very technical, dealing with brain structure and functions, neurotransmitters and the like. To narrow the search, I typed in both "psychology of time" and "days are long". And got nothing at all!
Finally, I decided to sit quietly and ponder the matter myself. This turned about to be a wise decision, because I think I found the solution. It's really quite simple. It all has to do with "anticipation" and "retrospection".
Whatever the nature of our individual lives, we all anticipate things important to us. Then after they happen, we look back at them. For example, most school children look forward to the long summer vacation, which always seems to be an eternity away. Finally, it arrives. Then, almost before they blink an eye, it's over and they are back in school again.
Progressing from primary school to secondary school is another excruciating anticipation for a youngster, especially if the move is perceived as being an important step away from childhood into adulthood.
And so it goes. When anticipated, each new significant event seems to be excruciatingly far away. However, after the event, we regularly look back and exclaim. "Did it really happen that long ago?"
Our first love, our first heartbreak, driving a car, landing a job, marriage, etc. When we look forward, all these milestones seem impossibly far in the future. However once achieved, how quickly they recede into the past.
The older we get, the more milestones we have to look back on. So the farther and faster they appear to recede. So if sometimes the clock may seem to have stopped, the calendar always continues racing ahead.
For me, the high point of my life was joining the Peace Corps and serving as a volunteer teacher of math, physics, and journalism in Tanzania. I applied for a Peace Corps posting early in my senior year at UCLA. Processing the application took only about three months -- perhaps the longest three months of my life. It seemed more like three years. I was accepted and sent abroad for two years - the shortest two years of my life, because I was having so much fun.
When I returned to Los Angeles, I could hardly believe the adventure was already over. The first week back seemed extremely long, because my heart was still beating 10,000 miles away. However, the weeks rapidly became shorter and shorter, then the first year, then the second year, and so on. I couldn't believe it when the first decade had passed, then the second, and so on.
I went to Africa with the Peace Corps in 1965 and returned in 1967. More than 40 years ago!
I of course have had many other milestones in my life, which are all rapidly hurtling away from me. Even the most recent ones already seem to be covered in dust. I am now 65. I don't feel old, but somehow I just can't get my mind around the fact that many of these things already look like ancient history.
If accumulating milestones is truly the secret of the accelerating years, what do we do about it? Basically nothing; we just have to accept it. However, this is not necessarily a negative. True, the good things are coursing away faster and faster into the past. But so are the not-so-good things.
The story is told of the biblical King Solomon. He once called his wise men together and presented them with a challenge. "Find me a cure for depression." They meditated for a long time, then gave him the following advice. "Your Majesty, make yourself a ring and have engraved thereon the words: This too shall pass." He had the ring made and wore it constantly. Every time he felt sad or depressed, he looked at the inscription, which tended to lift his spirits.
"This too shall pass." Indeed, it shall. Whether positive or negative, nothing in life lasts forever, even if it sometimes feels as if it will. We are certain of this because we know even life itself doesn't last forever.
We are all born to die. What happens after that is the subject of considerable controversy. But whatever it is, we are certain it is going to happen, and that it will almost certainly be different from whatever we know today.
Since I am now in my seventh decade (I am 65), for me this inevitability will probably occur sometime within the next 20-30 years, and almost certainly within the next 40 years. This seems like a very long time. However, the years are accelerating, so when it does occur my most probable reaction will be: "What! Already!"
The biggest difference between our philosophies is he feels that his days are getting longer while the years are shortening.
I don't agree.
I feel that time, on all levels is moving more rapidly, in unison, from minutes to hours to days and years.
When I lay my head down at night I am surprised by two things: how much I have done (notice I didn't say "accomplished" because some days are not as goal oriented) and how fast the day has flown by.
So does "parenting" add to this illusion of "Time Flying"?
To a certain extent I agree with Philip.
If I had a dime for every time I have uttered the words: "They grow up soooo fast".
How about religion?
Like Philip, I am not so sure about that idea.
Now, I do like how Philip touches on the relationship of pure science to explain this circumstance.
I think I will dig deeper into that tomorrow.
One thing that has really been bothering me since I began this research is the fact that time is such an absolute.
Once it's gone, it's gone.
There is no changing it, no adding to it and no getting around it.
You know it really, really, really sucks that there are absolutely no "do-overs".
So far, my research has led me to only one conclusion that I consider gospel truth:
You have to get the most out of every second/minute/day/year because there is no chance to do it again differently.
Do you agree?
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