Knowledge is supreme.
Sun Tzu knew this.
All great historic decisions, actions and resolutions were built on having the right knowledge.
With the right knowledge, every little thing you do every day is done properly.
The primary objective of my Survive55 blog is to bring you knowledge.
Because It is an incredible source of knowledge.
Politics, entertainment, technology, health, food, retirement, religion....they cover it all.
There are times that I just have to forward on to you all an article/blog that I read on Huffington Post because it has knowledge that needs to be spread and seen by all baby boomers.
This is one of those times.
And there is no better subject to strengthen our knowledge on than sex.
Following is an article written by Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. who are are San Francisco-based sex and relationship therapists who help men, women and couples realize their full sexual potential and deepen their experience of pleasure, intimacy and connection.
Celeste and Danielle are the creators of the Somatica Method of sex coaching and relationship therapy and the authors of "Cockfidence -- The Extraordinary Lover’s Guide to Being the Man You Want to Be and Driving Women Wild."
To learn more, visit www.celesteanddanielle.com
This article is written for a woman's perspective but the knowledge it supplies is employable for men as well.
And yes, it does pinpoint the demographic of 60+ women but this knowledge is important enough and engaging enough to the entire baby boomer universe (male and female) that it caught my eye and drove me to forward it on in my blog.
We recently received a question from one of our readers who asked, "May I know five good reasons why 62-year-old women need sex?"
We loved this question, both in its simplicity and for its complexity.
It is complex because, before we can answer it, we have to look at why so many women give up on sex as they get older.
Social messages telling women that sex is not for them cause women to distance themselves from their desire throughout their lives.
As they get older, the fact that they no longer have the hormones that supported their earlier sex drive, combined with the negative messages they may still have in their minds around sex, means they often give up on sex altogether.
As an engineer client of ours put it, "Sounds like they end up with low drive and a lot of resistance, but you need high drive and low resistance for things to move."
If you are a woman who has given up on your sex life, we invite you to reconsider!
There are many good reasons to have sex as you age.
It is time to define what kind of sex is right for you.
Sex is no longer about reproduction (if it ever was) and you have an opportunity to move beyond the basics of genital intercourse and find out what is actually pleasurable for you about sex.
Instead of just going along with your partner's needs or desires, take some time to explore all the possibilities around sex.
You may prefer all-over body touch, extended sensual kissing sessions, or playing with long, slow teasing.
If you haven't gone on this journey, why not try it now?
We had a female client in her 60s who, after much struggle and frustration around orgasm (she was having them but not getting much pleasure), finally realized, "Orgasm isn't what I like about sex, I like the feeling of my husband's body pressed into mine.
It makes me feel warm and safe and connected."
Another client in her late 50s had only had an orgasm by herself, never with a partner, and another woman had never had an orgasm before.
Through her work with us, she found she could have orgasms with her partner and that she was multiply orgasmic!
Some women experience their full pleasure potential and learn to orgasm for the first time in their 60s.
If you are having sex that is right for you, sex can be a very bonding experience with a partner.
If you learn what you really enjoy and a partner gives it to you, and you give them what they enjoy, sex can be an amazing place where you can experience the pleasure of generosity and reciprocity in your relationship.
As we see couples learning to give each other physical pleasure, we also see them grow closer emotionally.
We also know that many women need emotional closeness in order to feel safe to open up to their desire and pleasure.
If there is an emotional divide in your relationship that makes you avoid sex, consider bringing it up and getting help from a sex therapist if you need it.
3) Sex has many health benefits.
Sex is a form of exercise that releases relaxing and stress-reducing hormones.
Aging is a process that all of us go through, and as we age our energy and vitality can begin to wane.
Sex is one way to stay connected to your energy and vitality, to get some wonderful exercise, and to lower your chance of sickness and even disease, since so many diseases are predicted by higher stress levels and having sex that is pleasurable to you lowers stress !!!
4) Sex is the best make-over.
Having sex in a way that is pleasurable to you reminds you that you still have young, vibrant energy inside and helps you glow from the inside out.
As you get older and your body changes, you may avoid sex because you don't feel beautiful and desirable anymore, but sex can actually bring you back in touch with your feeling of internal beauty.
When you feel beautiful on the inside you glow on the outside and this is a feeling that does not have to change even as your body is changing.
5) Sex is a celebration of life.
As you get older, the world can weigh on you and you might forget to celebrate your aliveness, your drive and your desire to keep engaging in all that life has to offer.
Sex is a reminder to your body and your spirit that life can be full of joy and celebration.
We can't emphasize enough how important it is that the sex you are having is for you and pleasurable to you, and that you are not doing it out of obligation or engaging in sex that does not satisfy you.
In order for you to get all the amazing benefits sex can offer, you must discover and ask for the sex that is right for you!
Again my Thanks to Huffington Post and Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman for bringing it to us.
This is simple yet compelling knowledge that we all knew but have probably forgotten about.
Most of us have been having sex for over 30 years (40 if I count the pre-dating years of my youth LOL) and are probably now coming to grips with the psychology and understanding of how and where it fits into our maturing lives.
I'm sure that there are more topics surrounding sex in our baby boomers years that need to be considered in my future blogs.
Are you willing to share your concerns and issues?
What are you most afraid of or angry about?
Are you becoming more open minded in your sexual attitudes as you mature or more set in your ways?
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The more Baby Boomers we can help, the better place we make this world !!!
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