<![CDATA[Survive55.com: the Baby Boomer Guidebook - BLOG]]>Sat, 20 Jan 2018 04:57:40 -0700Weebly<![CDATA[The Difference Between Being Alone and Being Lonely]]>Tue, 12 Dec 2017 07:00:00 GMThttp://survive55.com/blog/the-difference-between-being-alone-and-being-lonelyPicture
Baby Boomers,

A while back we talked about the new rules for "virtual " friendships and how you treat your social media contacts and "friend requests."

Do you feel because of modern technology, your life is getting more crowded with relationships?

Or, do you feel, because of technology your life is becoming more lonely because these relationships are less personal, fulfilling and more distant?

A while back I ran across an article from Margaret Manning, who has a wonderful website called "Sixty & Me" which is focused on the female Baby Boomer population.

Yes guys, I do follow women bloggers and that doesn't mean I have to give up my "Man Card."

Margaret was talking about how she wanted to spend her Birthday by herself.

She wanted the opportunity to "reflect on the connection between being alone and being lonely."
What a great idea.

Are they the same or is there a difference?


In one of her emails about the subject she wrote
  "Despite everything we know about the importance of maintaining social connections as we get older, finding friends after 60 can be a challenge.
As we age, the easy social connections that we enjoyed as schoolmates, parents and colleagues change.

As a result, many women find themselves facing shrinking social circles and needing to make new friends. 

In other words, we find a void in our lives and no easy way to fill it."

What do you think about spending your Birthday (or any holiday for that matter) by yourself?

Does that necessarily mean you are alone?

One of my favorite life rituals has been to spend New Years Eve all by myself (even if I am in a relationship) as a time of meditation and reflection.

It feels weird to stay away from the parties and the excitement.

It feels even weirder when the countdown begins, but interestingly enough, when the pans stop clanging and the fireworks fade away, it seems like just another day.


These days, it seems to me that I just have to get away from everything more often.

It doesn't matter if it's a couple of hours at the park during the day, taking in a ball game by myself or spending a weekend out of town.

I have even gone so far as to take a 2 week vacation, by myself,  in the Florida Keys after my divorce several years ago.

It was one of the best experiences of my life.

Do you feel the urge to be by yourself more now that you are getting older?

Or do you need intimate friendships and relationships more than ever?

Read More.............

If you found today’s blog helpful, interesting, or even funny, I bet your friends would too. 

It's easy to tell them about it.

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The more Baby Boomers we can help, the better place we make this world !!!

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<![CDATA[You Know It's Hot Outside When............]]>Wed, 13 Sep 2017 07:00:00 GMThttp://survive55.com/blog/you-know-its-hot-outside-whenPicture
Baby Boomers,

Do you ever wake up and just know it's going to be a "Hot One" today?

Well, it's like that pretty much every day in Arizona.

To commemorate the final "Dog Days" of summer I thought I would bring you a little humor from the internet.

Although I found these photos on the web, it's not hard to imagine that a lot of them were taken right here in the "Valley of the Sun."

Welcome to Arizona, where summer spends the winter — and hell spends the summer!

If you found today’s blog helpful, interesting or even funny I bet your friends would to

It's easy to tell them about it.

Forward it on to them or just email them my blog link at www.survive55.com.

The more Baby Boomers we can help, the better place we make this world !!!

Thanks for joining me..........................................................

<![CDATA[10 Time Management Tips for Baby Boomers]]>Tue, 12 Sep 2017 07:00:00 GMThttp://survive55.com/blog/10-time-management-tips-for-baby-boomersPicture
A copy of the Timothy Ferriss book “The 4-Hour Workweek” sits on my desk right in front of me every day reminding me of several things:

1.  We live in a very different time now than we did 25 or even 10 years ago.  No other generation has enjoyed such an impressive shift in technology and lifestyle changes.

2.  Time is running out.  I know that is cruel to say but it’s true.  As Baby Boomers we need to realize that our time is now limited so we need to make the best of it.

3. Time is a tool.  It can be manipulated, shared, divided and saved.  There are definite ways to make the most of your time

4. Time is our most valuable resource.   If we learn how to control and use it wisely we will maximize our output both spiritually and financially.

PictureTimothy Ferriss - The 4-Hour Workweek
I pick up this book constantly looking for ways to increase my productivity and use my time wisely.

I always take the time to read blogs, articles and “how-to’s” on time management.

I devour any and all “life hacks” that I run across in my research.

I task myself to try new ideas if it means I will be more productive and save time.

So, what’s worked for me?

Let me share my Top 10 Tips with you on how I squeeze every second of time out of my “time.”

          10 Time Management Tips for Baby Boomers

1)  Make time to plan.  Use 30 minutes a day to plan how you are going to use your time.  If you don’t you will find yourself running around in circles wasting time.  I prefer to use 15 minutes in the morning to set my priorities for the day and 15 minutes at night to set my goals for tomorrow and beyond if needed.

2)  Remember there are always 1440 minutes in each day.  They do not vary from day to day.  If you understand that you can map out a plan for using them wisely.  Appreciate and accept that some of these minutes will be used systematically day in and day out for essential tasks (work, calls etc.) others for personal needs (exercise, relaxation, etc.) and yet others to service physical requirements (eating, sleeping, etc.).  It is how you use the remaining minutes that make the difference in your emotional and financial well-being. 

3)  Include “Energy Management” with your “Time Management.” 
You can be the best planner ever and have every minute of the day packed with essential tasks but if you don’t have the energy to complete them properly then it’s all for nothing.  Prioritize and plan in time segments that you can handle physically.  Don’t wear yourself out.

4)  Tackle top priorities first.
  They may not be the most pleasant but they are the most important so engage them when you are the most physically rested and mentally alert.

5)  Stay focused.  Don’t get distracted by everything that is shiny around you.  Constantly remind yourself of the task you are working at hand.  Carry a short list with you on a “post it” note as a visual reminder.  With everything that is going on in the world around us it is very easy to get distracted.

6)  Try to touch things only once. 
Trust your intuition when making decisions especially on those choices that are not top priorities. Negotiate the task you are working on and complete it before moving on. 

7)  Learn to say “NO.”  Remember, every time you say “yes” to a request you are in fact saying “no” to something else.  Time is yours to use so don’t let someone else use it up for you.  You will be surprised how easy it is to deflect non-essential requests for your time by others.  Simple things like keeping your door shut while working on priority tasks, not answering the phone and letting people know that you are too busy will help you find more time for yourself.

8)  Slow down and think.  I know this sounds counter-intuitive to what I am asking you to do in tip #6 but many times it is important to catch your breath before making a decision. 

9)  Visualize your outcome.
  Before making a decision or choosing a course of action Start with the ending in mind.

10) Delegate and outsource.  Don’t be afraid to let others do things for you.  Look at your “to do” list and rather than asking yourself “How do “I” get this task completed?” ask instead “How can this task be completed?”  It’s a simple change of semantics but it takes the burden off of your shoulders of having to complete every task yourself.  Look for help, it’s out there.

PictureBeau Stanton - Mythos Mechanism
I know this is not rocket science but, if you feel like I do, then you understand the importance of using your remaining time on this planet wisely.

Hopefully, my tips help you.

Please feel free to share any tips you might have as well with our fellow baby boomers.

If you found my blog helpful, interesting or even funny (you sick bastard) I bet your friends would to.

It's easy to tell them about it.

It would be great if you told everyone you knew about Survive55.com

The more Baby Boomers we can help,  the better place we make this world !!!

Thanks for joining me..........................................................

<![CDATA[10 Life Hacks I Bet You Didn't Know After 50 Years]]>Wed, 06 Sep 2017 07:00:00 GMThttp://survive55.com/blog/10-everyday-things-i-bet-you-didnt-know-after-50-yearsPicture
Baby Boomers,

By the time we have reached our 50’s we have learned a lot of stuff both useful and not.

We have discovered tricks that simplify our lives and tricks to make complicated tasks easier.

Sometimes I get the feeling that I am really am a “know-it-all”.

But then something as simple as putting leftovers from dinner away becomes a technical nightmare and I am brought back to intellectual reality. 

I reach into the kitchen drawer and take out a small box of clear wrap to save my uneaten chicken breast. 

But pulling out a small sheet of plastic wrap becomes a momentous task because the roll keeps pulling out of the box and the plastic won’t unroll and it sticks to itself and I begin screaming and I wind up with bloodied knuckles and strips of shredded plastic wrap all over the kitchen.

It’s at a moment like that I realize I really and truly don’t know poop!

PictureDo you know "Sh*t from Shinola?"
Why do you follow my blog?

I think because I offer you, my fellow Baby Boomers, through my own disjointed and slightly twisted experiences, helpful tips, hints and pointers that make your lives simpler and more productive.

I am positive that is a good thing.

But I have to tell you that the 10 tips I am offering below really piss me off.

They are so simple and have been staring me in the face for so long that I can’t believe, after 56 years of existence on this planet, that I didn't already know these.

Odds on, you are a smarter human being than I, so you probably know a few of these tips already.

To that I say:

“Good For You.”

To those of you that are in the same boat as me and didn't know any of these tips I say:

 “You Are Welcome.”

10 Everyday Things You Probably Still

Didn’t Know After 50 Years

1. Aluminum Foil Guides

Dammit, this first tip is sooooo easy.

My brother-in-law Tom actually pointed it out to me.

Most aluminum foil boxes as well as plastic wrap boxes have press-in tabs already cut into the sides of the cardboard box that secure the roll in place when spinning them.

If you poke them in when you buy a new box you will never have to worry about cutting your hands again or having the entire roll come flying out of the box every time you need a sheet.

2. Stopping Bad Breath is Easy

Everyone knows Tic Tacs right? 

The brand was launched in the US in 1969 by the Italian confection manufacturer Ferrero

Tic Tac has been a leading breath mint brand for 40 years.

Tic Tac is sold worldwide.

But, have you figured out how to get your Tic-Tacs out of the little plastic container and into your hand one at a time? 

No, madly shaking the pill box doesn’t help. 

Avoid the stress by turning the container over and letting a mint gently glide into the built in lid indentation. 

If you get good enough at this move you can make this look real sexy in front of your date. 

There is even a video on YouTube.

3. Storing Natural Peanut Butter

Everyone knows that they should be eating natural peanut butter because it’s better for you. 

When peanuts are made into commercial peanut butter (such as Skippy or Jif), some of the oil gets converted into a harder, saturated fat.

This keeps the oil from separating to the top.

The hardened oil, called trans-fat, is far less healthful.

But it’s such a hassle to keep natural peanut butter in the refrigerator.

You have to stir it up every time you want to use it. 

Why not store it upside down in the refrigerator so the oils distribute evenly?

In fact, if you eat it every day you don’t even have to put the jar in the refrigerator.

4. The potential of the little paper ketchup cups

Picture yourself in your favorite McDonald's and you want some ketchup for your fries.

Instead of grabbing multiple cups of ketchup to dip your French fries in why not simply pull apart the little paper cups that the restaurant supplies at the edges for twice the space.

5. Perfect Potty Plunger

Most Baby Boomers probably grew up with a flat plunger next to the toilet in their house.  

You know the one.......a cheap brown plastic cup on a wood handle.

But, did you know it’s only meant to be used to unclog sinks?

Make sure to have a flange or bowl plunger on hand to unclog those unruly toilet stoppages.

The flange plunger has a similar cup shaped top but with a flange on the end that slides into the toilet drain trap to create maximum suction.

Who wants to deal with more sh*t than they have to in life?

6. Chinese takeout containers are actually little plates

We always knew that the Oriental race was very creative. 

Thanks to them we have fireworks and alcoholic drinks and paper currency. 

But did you know that the containers you order your Sweet and Sour Chicken or Moo Goo Gai Pan in are actually meant to unfold into a makeshift plate, which you can easily reassemble into a box for storing leftovers.

"Domo Arigato Mr. Roboto."

7. With toothpaste a little dab will do ya’

Dentists and Dental Hygienists recommend that you only need to use a pea-sized amount of toothpaste for effective cleaning if you have to use toothpaste at all. 

Brushing your teeth with just a wet brush is basically more effective than using a giant blob of toothpaste because it allows you to see your gum line and trapped particles better. 

The only benefit of toothpaste comes from the whiteners or fluoride that the paste dispenses. 

Think of it this way: 

"If you can't pronounce an ingredient, you probably don't want it in your mouth."

8. Greek yogurt containers are "fold-able"

There is a huge popularity rise in the sale of Greek Yogurts and most come with the fruit or honey or syrup in a separate bowl area of the container. 

Chances are you've been scooping the toppings with your spoon onto the yogurt. 

But, have you realized, the topping holder folds over, so you can pour the toppings directly on top?

No muss, no fuss !!!

9. Proper placement of toilet seat covers

You know what I’m talking about right? 

I’m referring to “Ass Gaskets”  those wisp-thin, slightly waxy paper toilet seat covers offered in public toilets to protect your “behind” from coming in contact with whatever the previous user “left behind.” 

The flap is actually meant to be placed toward the front.

This prevents the agony of sitting down on a toilet seat, only to realize you’ve dragged the cover down into the bowl.

10. Soda tabs double as straw holders.

What good are the soda can tabs once you use them to open your pop? 

They just kind of lie there and get caught in your nose hair or facial hair (if you have any - I guess this wouldn't affect women, I guess?) or you play with them and make tinny clicking noises with them.

No, you can't make snifty ring curtains anymore because there are no tab pulls to connect to each other.

If you have some facial hair then get yourself a straw to drink with.

Did you know that when you o
pen your soda can you should turn the tab around so that it acts as holder that can stop the straw from rising out of the can as the soda fizzes.

Pretty darn handy I say.

11. Soft-drink lids can double as coasters

So you head on into your favorite Circle K, fast food restaurant or local burger shop to get an afternoon pick-me-up.

Then someone bumps your table and your well deserved refreshment  winds up as a puddle on the floor.

Did you know that, in most cases, you can take the plastic lid that is used to close your drink cup and use it as a perfectly sized coaster? 

With it attached the drink it is also less likely to fall over if bumped.

Sorry folks, I just went out to check and this does not apply to the hot lids on the coffee at Starbucks.

Take note Starbucks, let's get with the program.

So there you go……10 incredibly simple tips (OK, there's 11.  So what? Are you going to get mad at me because I slipped in an extra tip?) to make your life easier that have been around since we were just baby “Baby Boomers.” 

I can’t believe I didn't know this stuff.

Many Thanks to
Gabby Noone over at the
BuzzFeed Staff for the inspiration for this blog.  

She put together a great article back in August 2013 that started me researching these tips.

As ingenious as some of these are, I am definitely going to be looking at things in a different way and definitely more closely from now on.

If you didn't know some of these, then pass this information forward to your fellow Baby Boomers would you?

Are there any other tips, like these 10 (11 whatever?) tips, you have found that makes your life much simpler?

Please share them with the world in my comments section.

If you found today’s blog helpful, interesting or even funny I bet your friends would to. 

It's easy to tell them about it.

Forward it on to them or just email them my blog link at www.survive55.com.

The more Baby Boomers we can help, the better place we make this world !!!

Thanks for joining me………………………………

<![CDATA[20 Incredible Examples of Inspired Modern Technology]]>Tue, 05 Sep 2017 07:00:00 GMThttp://survive55.com/blog/20-examples-of-inspired-modern-technologyPicture
Baby Boomers................

If I have said it once I have said it one hundred times.

We are lucky to be alive today.

No, I don't mean it that way.

I don't mean we should have expired years ago because of the excessive partying we did in the 70's, or the massive array of chemicals we tested on our bodies or the crazy stunts we pulled like nude sky diving or the deafening rock n roll we constantly subjected our brains to.

No, those were good things.

I considered them healthy "growing" experiences.

You know what they say?

"If it doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger."

No, what I'm saying is we are so very lucky to be alive in such a wonderful technological time.

Because of the advances made over the past twenty years, the world has become a smaller, more vibrant and exciting place to live.

Because of technology we are able to experience more of life.

We live more.

We do more.

We experience more.

And thank goodness there are Baby Boomers out there that have embraced this incredible wealth of technology and found creative ways to advance it.

If it was up to me we would still be watching black & white TV and everything would be organized under the Dewey Decimal System. 

Take a look at the slideshow below and I think you will be amazed at how bright and creative people really are.

Some of these new inventions are just simply "inspired."

All I can say is "Why didn't I think of that?"

If you found my blog funny, interesting or even helpful I bet your friends would to.

It's easy to tell them about it.

Forward it on to them or just email them my blog link at www.survive55.com.

It would be great if you told everyone you knew about Survive55.com.

The more Baby Boomers we can help,  the better place we make this world !!!

Thanks for joining me..........................................................

<![CDATA[HAPPY "INDEPENDENCE MONTH"]]>Tue, 04 Jul 2017 07:00:00 GMThttp://survive55.com/blog/happy-independence-monthPicture
Baby Boomers,

Today is Independence Day.

Commonly known as the Fourth of July, it is a government declared federal holiday in the United States commemorating the "adoption" (did you notice I put that word in parenthesis) of the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776, declaring independence from the Kingdom of Great Britain.

Now-A-Days we celebrate Independence Day with death defying fireworks shows, heartwarming small town parades, big old family barbecues, carnivals and street fairs, extravagant picnics, patriotic concerts, baseball games, family reunions, and political speeches and ceremonies, in addition to various other public and private events.

Whew, that's a lot of sh*t for one day !!

We have been led like sheep by our government and big retail business together to use this day, July 4th,  to extol the wonders of our national history, the successes of our illustrious government, and historical traditions that define these here United States.

But let's peel back the onion before we put it on that slightly overcooked grilled hamburger and find out exactly what the 4th of July is all about.

The American Revolution, the legal separation of the Thirteen Colonies from Great Britain occurred on July 2, 1776, when the Second Continental Congress voted to approve a resolution of independence that had been proposed in June by Richard Henry Lee of Virginia declaring the United States independent from Great Britain  

Did you hear what I said.............." the legal separation of the Thirteen Colonies from Great Britain occurred on July 2, 1776"

So, I think we are celebrating this holiday on the wrong date.

After voting for independence, Congress turned its attention to the Declaration of Independence, a statement explaining this decision, which had been prepared by a Committee of Five, with Thomas Jefferson as its principal author. Congress debated and revised the wording of the Declaration, finally approving it on July 4.

A day earlier, John Adams had written to his wife Abigail:

"The second day of July, 1776, will be the most memorable epoch in the history of America. I am apt to believe that it will be celebrated by succeeding generations as the great anniversary festival. It ought to be commemorated as the day of deliverance, by solemn acts of devotion to God Almighty. It ought to be solemnized with pomp and parade, with shows, games, sports, guns, bells, bonfires, and illuminations, from one end of this continent to the other, from this time forward forever more."

Adams's prediction was off by two days.

Darn it !!

From the outset, Americans celebrated independence on July 4, the date shown on the much-publicized Declaration of Independence, rather than on July 2, the date the resolution of independence was approved in a closed session of Congress.

Historians have long disputed whether Congress actually signed the Declaration of Independence on July 4, even though Thomas Jefferson, John Adams, and Benjamin Franklin all later wrote that they had signed it on that day.

Most historians have concluded that the Declaration was signed nearly a month after its adoption, on August 2, 1776, and not on July 4 as is commonly believe.

OK, so now we have 3 days to celebrate our independence:

1.  July 2nd  - The date the resolution was signed and the legal separation of the Thirteen Colonies from Great Britain occurred

2.  July 4th – The day Congress finished their debate and revision of the wording of the Declaration and finally approved it.

And………………wait for it………………wait for it……………

3.  August 2nd – The day most historians have concluded that the Declaration was really signed.

OK, so it looks like we have a real problem here.

I don't think so.

Let's celebrate all 3 days.

I mean, is any of these days to be held any less important than the others?

Hell no !!!

So there you go.

If I can add my two cents worth I think we should be celebrating "Independence Month" instead of "Independence Day"

Imagine the positive effect this would have on the economy.

Everyday has to be a celebration so every day demands a bar-b-que.

Stores (See Wal-Mart blog from yesterday for statistical evidence) sell more meat and food and charcoal and fireworks and soda and snacks and condiments and beer and beer and beer……

All of the suppliers will sell more to the stores.

More folks are employed by the stores, delivery companies, produce and meat companies, farmers, etc...

Unemployment drops significantly.

Everybody has more disposable income (and time to spend it since we are celebrating for a whole month) and starts buying new cars, TV's, homes, etc.

The United States becomes an economic superpower once again.

Oh, but I digress.

I don't believe Americans really understand what July 4th is all about.

July 4 isn't about an "event" that occurred in 1776.

It's not like the "country's birthday" where people celebrate the day it were born.

The United States wasn't actually born on July 4.

We had to win a war first remember?

What truly happened is that our glorious forefathers stated their "intentions" on July 4.

July 4 was the start of our insurrection against the King of England.

We drew the proverbial "line in the sand" and it was on our Eastern seaboard.

So no matter what day (or month) we celebrate "Independence Day", the bottom line is that we celebrate to reaffirm our commitment, as a country, to our freedom, liberty and privilege of choice.

July 4 is a reminder to the rest of the world of what Americans are prepared to do to achieve and retain our freedom, liberty and privilege of choice. 

The Constitution is a pledge by the people of the United States to themselves to preserve freedom at all costs.

July 4th is not a day for the government.

July 4th is not a day for big business.

July 4th is a day for the people.

Let me finish with another section of that same letter that John Adams had written to his wife Abigail on July 3rd:

"You will think me transported with Enthusiasm but I am not. -- I am well aware of the Toil and Blood and Treasure, that it will cost Us to maintain this Declaration, and support and defend these States. -- Yet through all the Gloom I can see the Rays of ravishing Light and Glory. I can see that the End is more than worth all the Means. And that Posterity will tryumph in that Days Transaction, even altho We should rue(regret) it, which I trust in God We shall not.”

Smart man……huh?

Happy "Independence Month" Survive 55 Followers.

Thanks for joining me……………………………

<![CDATA[DOES TIME FLY WHEN YOU ARE HAVING FUN?]]>Tue, 20 Jun 2017 07:00:00 GMThttp://survive55.com/blog/time-flies-when-you-are-having-funPicture
Baby Boomers,

Can anyone explain why time can appear to move faster or slower depending on the situation?                                                                                                                                                                     Time has always existed.  It is man that created parameters to categorize when certain lifestyle changes are to take place.  It is man that built complex structures to organize our lives to live in harmony with nature:  

  • The seasons to coordinate with planting and harvesting food
  • Months to coordinate with the phases of the moon
  • Weeks to define the "market day" when we needed to go to town for supplies and the "Sabbath" a day of rest and worship
  • Days to honor the 7 major Gods
  • Hours to control how long our favorite TV shows should last and
  • Minutes to delegate an appropriate amount of time for Superbowl commercials

OK,  I made those last two up, but you get my point.

I think we all can agree that time existed before man in some undefinable form and has always behaved the same (whether we are approaching the speed of light or not).

Since man has put a definition to the way time should be measured it has become clearer that there is a very strong relationship between how we view an event or activity and how we perceive the "time" that surrounds our involvement in this activity/event.

Are you following me?

There are several theories and personal philosophies, that, when looked at individually, do a good job in explaining the ability of time to move differently.

1.   In a concrete, scientific manner the Theory of Relativity does a good job (OK, I guess it does a great job) of explaining how time moves based on its relationship to matter and the speed of light.  I accept that time can physically change based on absolute, defining universal parameters.

2.   But something is missing and this is the addition of the more philosophical, emotional and psychological perspective that man gives to his definition of time.

3.   Now stir in a mixture of the electro-chemical brain and muscle impulses that build our "Mental Relativity" that dominates everyone's individual behavior and you have created "Time Warp Soup."

As the great philosopher Yoda would say: "Somewhere in this mixture the answer lies.... hhhmmm."

For instance, have you ever heard of the phrase "Time flies when you are having fun"?

When you tend to enjoy something, you feel that time passes by very quickly, but, on the other hand, when something isn't very pleasing at all, time seems to slow down to a crawl.

I read an article somewhere on how Albert Einstein explained this theory to Charlie Chaplin:

"When you keep your hand on a pretty girl, an hour seems to be like a second.....but when you keep the same hand on a hot pan, a second seems to be an hour.   That's the relativity of time"

I'd say the relativity of time is just a scientific explanation of what's observed in philosophical terms.

In fact, I'd say most of the scientific theories of life have a philosophical basis.

For example:

Newton's third law - "Every action has an equal and opposite reaction" can only be accepted in a connected relationship with Aristotle's "Law of Causality" and my favorite Buddhist Law of Karma.

Time and space are relative to each individual because our minds don't restrict themselves to one time and/or one space.

Depending on the situation our minds jump to different states of time and space repeatedly.

Take the Einstein explanation to Chaplin above:  When your hand lands on a pretty girl (OK Gals, follow me by putting your hand on a stud muffin type of  guy) your thought process probably redirects itself rather quickly to visions of nakedness, groping and carnal activities.

Microseconds later you are thinking about your wife or girlfriend and whether or not having your hand on a pretty girl is the right thing.

Instantly your back to visions of nakedness on the beach.  The pretty girl's husband walks up and your mind goes into a raging fear mode and reviews multiple defense and flight mechanisms.

OK, one last millisecond of carnal thoughts and then you react by removing your hand.

All of that takes place in the smallest instant of time and based on whether that event was pleasurable or dangerous, you will judge that you had your hand on the pretty lady for hours or just an instant.

What about when you hand lands on a hot pan?

I bet there is only one thought racing through your mind........move my f*#@ng hand !!!!

There's no pleasure here and your mind is probably not racing from one thought scenario to another.

it's pretty damn focused so it appears that it takes way too long to get your hand off of the damn hot pan.

Even days later, when you look down at your poor blistered and bandaged hand you will still have the perspective that it felt like you had your hand on that hot pot for an eternity when in reality it was probably just an nanosecond. 

Now roll this simple example out into your lifetime of experiences, activities and personal events.

You may think it sound's simplistic but I am convinced that time does speed up or slow down based on your current stimulation when reviewed against a combination of the three theories offered earlier.

Time flies when you are having fun.

Not so much when you aren't.

I guess the bottom line is make sure that you are enjoying every minute of your life on this planet.

Yes, it will appear that time is "flying" by all of the time but hell, it's worth it.

And maybe, just maybe, if you can keep time moving at a really fast pace because you are having so much fun then the reality of the time-space continuum will appear to slow down to a crawl because your "mental relativity" perspective has gotten so used to time moving quickly that it's all a matter of perspective.


Wait, that's a theory for another day.

Have fun and let time fly.

If you found today’s blog helpful, interesting, or even funny, I bet your friends would too. 

It's easy to tell them about it.

Forward it on to them or just email them my blog link at www.survive55.com.

The more Baby Boomers we can help, the better place we make this world !!!

Thanks for joining me..........................................................


<![CDATA[DOES TIME FLY?]]>Mon, 12 Jun 2017 07:00:00 GMThttp://survive55.com/blog/timePicture
Baby Boomers,

How fast does time move for you?

That is a tough and very complicated question.

It has been a week since my last blog entry.

What happened?

I guess I let "life" take over.

I guess, that different parts of "life" became more important. 

I guess, without realizing, I reclassified my priorities for a while.

Hey, I know what I did during these last 7 days but my goodness is it that easy to lose focus?

It must be because it seems to happen to me all of the time.

Here's a short list of what happened to me over the last week:

  • I started a new health regimen and went bike riding and ate stir fry veggies
  • I went on a "date" (I know kinda weird at 60 right?)
  • I cleaned my garage
  • My car was "dinged" twice in parking lots
  • I attended 3 networking events, a Rotary Meeting and a Foundation Board Retreat
  • I reached out via email to 3 "old" friends I haven't spoken to in over 25 years

This doesn't seem like a lot when I look at the list but I don't feel that any of these events were directly responsible for me losing track of my priorities and changing my lifestyle from where it has been for the last six months.

It just seems like I run out of time every day to get accomplished what I set out to do.

Does that make sense?

Two of my top priorities this year was to complete the Rosetta Stone Spanish program and to get in good physical shape in order to hold off the inevitable effects of my advancing years. 

Not only has it been a week since I have been on my blog here, but it has been much longer than that since I have touched my Spanish program. 

It seems like every day has zipped by soooo fast that it became increasing harder and harder to carve out an hour to sit down in front of my computer and focus on my Spanish. 

And although I continue to "plank" and try to do at least 25 chin-ups a day it has been even longer since I have formally worked out.

What am I doing and why am I so tired at the end of each day?

A couple of weeks ago I brought my bike to my new house from storage with the plan to ride in the evenings when it it cooler.  The other day, when I was cleaning the garage, I noticed both tires were flat, one of the brake handles was off, the entire bike was filthy and dusty and there were rags draped over the handlebars.  Is this an allegory of how I am living my life.  

Hopefully, I will not reach the same fate as my bike where all I become is a makeshift, ineffective framework of what I once was.

OK, that sounds pretty  melodramatic and will never happen but this whole "time" thing has me confused and it seems to be some sort of ironic joke of the universe.

I have been doing some research on this phenomena for some time now and I am afraid to report that there are no clear, clean cut, scientifically definite explanations as to why "time flies".

It's kind of ironic that I ran across a blog from a good friend of mine who quit her job, sold everything she owned and is now spending a year with her husband in Costa Rica.  Her name is Jennifer Lawless and her blog is called "Tomorrow is another day."  It touches on many of the same questions we all have about time but in a unique and interesting way.  I highly recommend that you take a minute to read it. 

There are some great personal philosophies I will share with you over the course of this week but I guess what I am really needing to figure this all out is your help.

Please reread that last sentence.  I am looking for your help. Would you please write back to me and let me know if you are as confused by how quickly time passes as I am.  

​Here are some questions to get you started:

Do you believe "time moves faster the older you get?"

Are you a "victim" of this phenomena?

What do you think causes this to happen?

Does it seem fair to you?

Do you think there is a purpose behind this experience?

Do you have current priorities and do you find yourself constantly losing track of them?

What causes you to lose focus on your true priorities?

I told you there were a lot of questions.  So, let's figure this one out together.  Please send me your thoughts, ideas, strategies and philosophies on this subject.

One thing I do feel strongly about is that it is very important for me (and you) to take the time to analyze this experience and come as close as possible to an explanation as we can.

I look forward to our conversation.

If you found today’s blog helpful, interesting, or even funny, I bet your friends would too. 

It's easy to tell them about it.

Forward it on to them or just email them my blog link at www.survive55.com.

The more Baby Boomers we can help, the better place we make this world !!!

<![CDATA[REINVENT YOURSELF AT 55 - CHRIS GARDNER]]>Wed, 31 May 2017 07:00:00 GMThttp://survive55.com/blog/proof-at-55-you-can-do-it3Picture
Baby Boomers,

I know most of you aren't thinking about improving yourself this week and making any huge life changes but that doesn't mean you should stop thinking about it.

I want to keep your internal motivation fires burning and how better but with an example of someone who turned his life around and became a huge success,

This person is
little different from us because he started from such a low low and became such a huge and easily recognized celebrity. 

Does the name Chris Gardner strike a bell? 

Do you remember the 2006 film The Pursuit of Happyness starring Will Smith in a journey from being a 50+ year old unemployed, homeless father to becoming a millionaire stockbroker?

I watched that movie last night.

That was about Chris Gardner.

Chris Gardner knows about reinvention.

Here is a man and a story that totally exemplifies what I have been preaching.......It's never too late, it's never impossible, it's never hopeless, it's never futile and it's never beyond your reach to find your passion and success in life even in your 50's.

Those of us that lost our jobs during the "Great Depression" may not be living in subway stations or eating out of dumpsters but we can be just as afraid of what tomorrow holds and can feel just as despondent about how to take care of ourselves and our families and can feel just as desperate when it comes to how we are going to live the rest of our lives comfortably.

Though he's come a long way since his homeless days, Gardner, at age 60,  is still re-imagining his life and facing obstacles doing it.

Your struggles to earn a living might be different from his or anyone else's, but Gardner says the answer to pulling yourself up is the same.

"Find something you're passionate about and go for it."

"Maybe it's not time for us over 50 to be finding a job," but instead finding a career to create, Gardner says. "Maybe it's time to find our button and push it."


In a speech to several hundred baby boomers at past AARP Life@50+ convention in Los Angeles Gardner outlined his advice for people contemplating a midlife reinvention. 

In his own words.........


1. "Ain't nobody gotta dig it but you." Forget what other people think or say. Do something that makes you happy. "We're afraid that because everybody might not like it" we shouldn't do it, Gardner says. "But you gotta push that button."

2. Go with what you love, but stay grounded. "Probably the hardest question I get asked is 'How do I choose between passion and practicality?'" Gardner says. "I can't answer that. I had to do both. I was passionate about pursuing a career in financial services. But I was also passionate about feeding my child."

3. Start a business. Gardner added his voice to the chorus of experts who see a wave of small-business startups run by baby boomers pushed out of Corporate America due to ageism or the bad economy. That's OK, he says, because entrepreneurs over 50 are in a better position than younger workers to capitalize on their "reputations and Rolodexes." It's the start of a creator economy, he says, "with a whole lot of folks being entrepreneurial."

4. Have a plan. If you're starting a business, hope isn't enough. You need a plan that's clear, concise, compelling and consistent. On top of that, you need to be committed to what you're doing, he says.

5. Play to your strengths. "Your skills, talents and expertise are transferable" to other types of jobs and industries, he says.

6. Look out for yourself. "The cavalry is not coming....and things might be getting worse."

7. Remember what's important. For a long time, Americans worked to get things, Gardner says. It's time to focus on what really matters -- family and friends.

8. Any progress is progress. "Baby steps count, too, as long as you're moving forward," he says.

Chris pretty much hits the nail right on the head doesn't he?

Make a decision......why wait?

Follow your passion and enjoy every second of life.

Thanks for joining me......................................

<![CDATA[The Great ASU Hair Experiment]]>Wed, 17 May 2017 07:00:00 GMThttp://survive55.com/blog/the-great-asu-hair-experimentPicture
Baby Boomers...........

Do you agree that our generation has always been at the forefront of cultural trends?

Didn't women in the 50’s wear curlers and hairnets, poodle skirts, torpedo bras and saddle shoes?

Didn't afros and bouffants, bell bottom pants, miniskirts, go go boots and granny glasses dominate the fashion world of the 60’s?

And how about the 70’s?

Didn't tie dyed T-shirts, turtlenecks, daisy dukes, Birkenstocks and platform shoes rule?

Then big hair, ripped jeans, fishnet shirts, punk, new wave and Boy George outfits showed up in the 80’s.

I could go on.

Behind the scenes, through every decade, was the "Avant Garde" unisex look.

We have always been “cutting edge” when it comes to fashion, style and grooming.

How to bend social norms (and piss off our parents) was always a test of our creativity.

Nothing was too sacred when it came to proclaiming our independence and individuality.

We were the hipsters, the beatniks, the bohemians, the flower children, the groovy people and if someone said we couldn't change something we did it.

Well, what goes around comes around.

In this new millennium, have definitions shifted around the old adage: 

“when men were men and women were women?”

If you haven’t been following the news lately baby boomers, it appears that the current generation of academics is taking a page out of our play book to educate our grandchildren about society and gender stereotypes.

There is an associate professor at Arizona State University, Breanne Fahs, that has developed a unique way to test the fiber of our youth to see if they would be willing to challenge the typical social norms of today.

Starting back in 2010, she has been offering her students extra credit if they defy the mainstream conventions of our society by changing how they treat their body hair.

What's that you say?

The females are challenged with letting their body hair grow for a full ten week period without shaving.

That’s an entire semester.

The men, just the opposite.

In order to earn extra credit they need to shave their entire body and go hairless (from the neck down) for the entire semester.

Fahs, who is an associate professor of women and gender studies at ASU’s New College of Interdisciplinary Arts and Sciences, told the campus newspaper in an interview recently:

“There’s no better way to learn about societal norms than to violate them and see how people react.”

She added: 

“There’s really no reason why the choice to shave, or not, should be a big deal. But it is, as the students tend to find out quickly.”

It appears that dozens of  women as well as men have found the challenge exciting enough to participate.

The reactions of how the public behaved when confronting these students varied.

One of the female students felt that the attitudes to her “hairiness" was sometimes “extreme.”

Stephanie Robinson stated:

“Many of my friends didn't want to work out next to me or hear about the assignment, and my mother was distraught at the idea that I would be getting married in a white dress with armpit hair.”

Maybe a simple black dress would be more appropriate?

Another female student told ASU News that the experiment was a “life-changing experience.”

It appears that her friends were repulsed and her mother was horrified by the addition of her newly propagated coiffure.

I find it hard to believe that these girl’s parents were so taken aback by all of this considering the social environments they grew up in.

I guess Arizona never was on the forefront of social upheaval.

Anyway,  at least she came away from the experience with a clear perspective of how others felt about her grooming habits.

 “It definitely made me realize that if you’re not strictly adhering to socially prescribed gender roles; your body becomes a site for contestation and public opinion.”

That sounds like the battle cry for our generation doesn't it?

So how do you feel about all of this fellow boomers?

Considering where we come from socially, do you find this experiment extreme or even a challenge?

Or is this just another case of “what goes around comes around?”

I think most of our baby boomer generation has already “been there, done that” with most social acceptance issues like this.

I dated plenty of (OK, a few) women with body hair in my college days.

As an old hippie, it wasn't uncommon in my social circles.

If anything, I found the departure from the commonplace exotic if not erotic.

If you follow current fashion trends to any degree you might notice that body hair on females is making a bit of a comeback anyway.

Hasn't it always been that “European thing?”

And there has definitely been an increase over the past 10 years or so in more aggressive body shaving by younger men.

You know, I don't see it as an act of social disobedience that I have been basically glabrous beneath my BVDs for years. 

“What’s the big deal?”

Has society really changed that much?

Do kids really think they have found something new and have become “activists” and “rebels” just by changing the configuration of their body hair?

Is this experiment another reminder of how fragmented and self-centered the current generation has become or is this just another case of the media finding a slightly curious story that they can blow up to global proportions?

It appears that the American Psychological Association was so impressed with this body hair experiment that the organization gave Associate Professor Fahs the Mary Roth Walsh Teaching the Psychology of Women Award in 2012.

She has had papers about the project published in academic journals and on her website.

Well, if you want my humble opinion fellow baby boomers, I think it is time for our generation to step up again and set society back on its heels again.

Like Otter said in the classic movie “Animal House”:

“I think we have to go all out. I think that this situation absolutely requires a really futile and stupid gesture be done on somebody's part!

We're just the generation to do it!

What will it be folks?

If you found my blog helpful, interesting or even funny I bet your friends would to. 

It's easy to tell them about it.

Forward it on to them or just email them my blog link at www.survive55.com.

The more Baby Boomers we can help, the better place we make this world !!!

Thanks for joining me..........................................................